My son, Bobby, age 15 was just diagnosed with NLD.
When he was younger, he seemed to excel in school, especially his reading
skills. In Kindergarten, he taught himself to read. When he was in
second grade, we pulled him out of school and home schooled him. In
3rd and 4th grade, he won first place in home school spelling bees.
He always was shy but seemed to do very well in school.
We noticed a "change" in him around 6th grade. He stopped
reading because he said the books were too hard. Math became
VERY hard for him and I had to get a tutor for him but the tutoring
didn't seem to help. He was afraid to go anywhere without us.
Socially he was more and more shy and didn't seem to have friends
like he used to. He stopped sharing his feelings with the family and
seemed to be regressing. We just limped along thinking it was just a
"phase."
This past winter was the worse for him and us and really made our
eyes open to the fact that he may have a problem. :( He started
getting more and more angry, also, he seemed to only talk about one
subject (sports) to the point that it drove people nuts. :( Socially, he didn't
seem to know when to stop talking about things and didn't say things
appropriately. He would constantly tell me that me or my husband were
"mad" at him and wouldn't (couldn't) believe when we told him we
weren't mad at him. :( He would say things like "no one likes
me" or "I'm stupid," or "I wish I was dead."
:( He never was happy and the only time he would "talk" to the
family was when he was being negative. :( We didn't know what happened to our
loving, happy son and our hearts were breaking. :(
We started taking him to a therapist and spoke to our doctor. He
was put on medicine for depression. That helped somewhat but didn't
get to the heart of the problem and we had no clue how to help him.
We felt that a different educational approach may be better for Bobby so
we enrolled him in a cyber charter school. He is still educated at
home but has the additional support if needed. The cyber school IS
our saving grace at this time. I requested some testing for Bobby to rule
out a learning disability because his self esteem and math skills were so
low. We went last week and after Bobby was tested, the physiologist
told me that Bobby has a nonverbal disability. Next month I go back
to the cyber school and we are writing up an IEP for him. I went
home and did a bunch of research on NLD and FINALLY found what was going
on with Bobby. It described him to a "T."
I am now doing a lot of research on how and what to request in regards to my son's needs when I go back to the school next month.