10 STEPS TO EFFECTIVE PARENTING
from Steve Dykstra
1) Catch your child doing something right! Look for things to praise, in specific and effective ways. The best teachable moment is when you wish to reinforce something that your child has completed and done well.
2) Be honest. Children usually know if you are telling the truth or not.
3) Have integrity. Integrity is when your beliefs, words and feelings are all in agreement. You cannot tell your child not to lie, and then attempt to get a 9 year old in at the "8 or under" price at the
4) Be a role model for various interests. Tell your child what you like and ask them what they like to do. Encourage your child to pursue a variety of interests!
5) Always validate your child's feelings. When a child is upset about something you think is nonsense, it is not nonsense to the child.
6) Laugh a lot! It has been said children on average laugh several hundred times a day - adults, four times. Studies show laughing reduces stress considerably!!!
7) Enjoy some spirituality. Children are idealistic, more so than most adults. Let them express their beliefs in higher things in ways they enjoy most, not necessarily your way.
8) Enjoy the sun, water, and earth. Always teach children to appreciate and enjoy nature.
9) Experiment. Children learn and explore every day. Teach them to develop options, and never punish an honest attempt that ends in failure. If you do, the child may never try something new again, which is the essence of learning!
10) Look for evidence of accomplishment. Gardner says there are 8 kinds of intelligence. We should not ask how intelligent a child is, but we should ask how is the child intelligent. You might be surprised... A child might not be great at mathematical things but might be an absolute prodigy in music or athletics.