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STICKS AND STONES
The Problem of Teasing in the Classroom
by Lorraine Campbell, Ph.D., C.Psych., Faye
Mishna, Ph.D., C.S.W.,
Barbara Muszkat, M.S.W., C.S.W., Sarah
Oosterhuis, M.S.W.
Children with learning disabilities (LD) are
prone to experiencing varying degrees of peer
rejection (Vaughn & Hogan, 1994) for several
reasons. First, these students tend to perform
poorly academically, which impacts negatively on
their self-esteem. In addition, cognitive
disabilties may make social interactions
difficult. Children with LD tend to misinterpret
social cues and to use erroneous information in
making social judgements (Weiss, 1984). These
cognitive difficulties lead to both social
confrontations and to unusual or bizarre
behaviour which soon causes peer rejection and
isolation.
Typical expressions of peer rejection are
teasing and victimization - a common and
difficult issue for classroom teachers. In
dealing with teasing in the classroom or
playground, it is crucial to understand why
children tease. Although common throughout
elementary school, peer teasing tends to peak in
Grade 7 & 8, the preadolescent years. These
years are unique in two ways. First, the
importance of peer group acceptance is at it's
peak. Preadolescents expend a great deal of
energy trying to gain peer acceptance. Second,
preadolescents are extremely self-conscious
about their appearance and behaviour. When
preadolescents who are trying to maintain peer
acceptance are confronted with a peer who is
different or doesn't fit into the peer group, it
may threaten their self-image and peer
acceptance. They may see parts of themselves
that are unacceptable to the group reflected in
the peer who is different. In an effort to
reject the negative parts of themselves and to
gain status in the peer group, they make fun of
the peer who is different.
This is why the most vicious teasing comes
from students who are marginally accepted in the
peer group. These marginal members of the peer
group are trying to gain status and acceptance
for themselves. Teachers often express surprise
that students with LD tend to get teased by
students who are low achievers or for some other
reason are only marginally accepted into the
peer group, arguing that the the marginally
accepted child should know what it feels like to
be rejected and should be more understanding. It
is precisely because he/she knows what it is
like to be rejected that the marginal student
needs to ensure his/her place in the peer group
by viciously teasing the student with LD.
In group sessions at Integra, a mental health
agency dealing with children and adolescents
with LD, clients frequently discuss how much
they have been hurt by teasing.
"Cause I know I'm not that popular
and I get teased a lot by other people quite a
lot. Yeah, and it affects um, maybe my whole
life and everything."
"I was even able to uh help Z. with
his with his uh thing that everybody in school
was picking on him and making hisGrade 9 year
a living hell in the sense that the same the
exact same thing or something similar happened
to me. It seemed as though everybody I knew
was either hurting me or picking on me in some
despicable horrible way."
Repeated failure experiences give students
with LD a fragile sense of self-esteem and
competence (Grolnick & Ryan, 1990), making
them vulnerable to teasing. Well-established,
positive feelings of social competence reflect a
student's overall self-confidence and cannot be
acquired through learning a set of quick
responses to teasing. Simply telling a student
what to say when peers tease him/her fails to
address the inadequate sense of competence which
initially caused the teasing. The teasing will
either continue or will take another form. In
either case, peer acceptance will not be
enhanced.
Children need to feel that they are competent
and that their feelings are important and
valued. The most important thing for teachers to
do when a child is teased is to validate the
child's feelings and to try to appreciate
his/her point of view. Ignoring a child's
justified pain after he/she is teased tells the
child that his/her feelings aren't valid or
important and further diminishes already weak
feelings of self-worth. It is most important to
acknowledge that the child has been injured and
hurt by the teasing. Acknowledging a child's
pain is an important intervention. Helping a
child to recognize that his/her feelings are
important aids in the development of a strong
sense of self-worth and social competence.
Social competence involves skills such as
social perspective taking, identifying problems,
generating appropriate solutions, predicting and
evaluating social consequences. Teachers need to
work cooperatively with students to develop
these skills and to establish a strong sense of
social competence. It is this sense of social
competence that will ultimately improve the
child's acceptance in the peer group. Social
competence must emanate from a general feeling
of accomplishment in the child.
Specific skills that can be developed to
enhance social competence include social
perspective taking and predicting consequences.
Students with LD are often unaware of the impact
of their appearance and behaviour on others.
Using mirrors and asking children to describe
the type of image they are portraying develops
social perspective taking skills. Role playing
activities in which different children play the
part of the teaser and the victim develops an
understanding of the reciprocal nature of peer
interactions. Finally, joint problem solving and
working through social situations, asking the
student to predict the outcome helps children
comprehend, predict and evaluate social
consequences.
REFERENCES
Grolnick, W. S. & Ryan, R. M. (1990).
Self-perceptions, motivation, and adjustment in
children with learning disabilities: A multiple
group comparison study. Journal of Learning
Disabilities, 23, 177-184. Vaughn, S.
& Hogan, A. (1994). The social competence of
students with learning disabilities over time: A
within-individual examination. Journal of
Learning Disabilities, 27, 292-303.
Weiss, E. (1984). Learning disabled children's
understanding of social interactions of peers. Journal
of Learning Disabilities, 17,
613-615.
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